#19 Crying out for Help!

# 19 Crying out for help!

01/19/2003 Sun

Craigs ex wife, Laura, (names have been changed) called me out of the blue tonight!. She found my number after calling 4 different people. She said she is really concerned  because when she spoke to Craig recently, she picked up that he may be considering taking the boys out of the U.S. with him. We spoke for an hour. She said when they split up she also feared for her life which is why she got a protective order. And he blames everyone else for his problems and doesn’t accept any responsibility and hates to lose control.

This was a big night for me. I was terrified that something was going on that I had no idea about. I really felt like Craig was going to go through with his plan of taking the kids away so that I would never be able to raise them.

Here are more journal entries from those days:

01/22/2003 Wed

Karen (my Kaysville neighbor) and I met with Sean Firth at Senator Hatch’s office to discuss Craigs case and the INS. He said they would fax a signed letter from Senator Hatch over to the INS to request info on why Craig hadn’t been picked up yet. I also spoke to Davis County Attorney's office, and they said they were still waiting for the conviction letter to be signed by the judge and there was nothing more they could do.

01/23/2003 Thurs

By this point I was terrified that Craig would take the kids out of the country and I would never see them again. He had told me numerous times that I would NOT raise them, and then when I got that call from Laura….everything came together. I knew I had to do everything I could to stop him from taking them away. I was terrified!! So I made some phone calls to find out what could be done in this instance.

I sent a fax and original copy in the mail to Washington DC to put a RED FLAG alert on Rocco and Richie in case a passport application came through for them. I will now be notified if one does get submitted for them, and know that no passports will be issued for them. Both parents have to sign off when a child leaves the country but I wanted to be very sure.

Sean Firth from the Senator's office said they had sent the letter to the INS and were waiting for a response. The head of deportation was scheduled to have a meeting at the Senate's office and Sean said he would meet with him to discuss the situation.

I still think I could have a huge case if I went after any of these people. Michael Boudrero should be alive today and my boys would not have a dad in prison. Not that I’m blaming anyone else for what happened, but just saying things could have worked out differently if any of them had paid attention to what I was saying. I was going to the police, the Senator's office, County Attorney's office, the INS….everywhere. I was telling them that Craig was buying guns (as a restricted felon) and making plans to leave the country. I felt threatened and I knew something bad was about to happen, and the only response I ever got was ….”well until something actually happens, we don’t have a case”. Well, I’m sorry Mr. Boudrero, and to your family,….I really tried. I made as much noise as I possibly could. No one would listen.

I have since read, learned and heard that the problem stems from people “crying wolf”. Charging someone with a crime is a very big deal, and if every time a couple had an argument and some one could claim violence happened, and there is no evidence of any violence, then you are not only costing the state a lot of money to chase after someone who isn’t a threat, but you are also destroying that person's life. Just like the idiot who put a bomb in his shoe and walked onto an airplane, now for the rest of time we get to endure crazy searches in the security lines. So what I am saying is, too many people have called foul when it wasn’t so, and now the ones who really are in danger…..have to wait for something to actually happen before we can get the help we need.

01/24/2003 Fri

Craig told the boys he would pick them up at 4pm. He went shopping with Liz and arrived here at 5:45pm. He took the boys shopping to RC Wiley and bought them lots of games and a  gamecube. Rocco told me all this afterwards but begged me not to tell Craig that he had told me because Craig had made him promise not to tell me. While Craig and Liz were shopping, she had bought him a gun at a pawn shop. I found the receipt. (And still have it to this day.)

Sean Firth from the Senator's office did not get back with me as promised. I had left him a voicemail at 10:45am.

01/26/2003 Sun

Rocco talked to me tonight about the gun Liz had bought for Craig on Friday. It was obviously bothering him. He said Craig had bought a lot of ammo for it.

My question is WHY? Why does Craig need a gun if he is planning on leaving the country? They don’t let you take one with you, so what is he doing?

Rocco said Craig made them promise that they wouldn’t tell me about the gun.

The boys were telling me that Craig had guns everywhere. They said there was a few in the van and a bunch in the house.  When I called the PD to ask them what can be done about it, they said nothing. If they had another reason to go into the house and they found the guns, he would be charged. But me just reporting that I know he has guns, there is nothing they can do about that.

01/27/2003 Mon

I phoned Craig this morning to ask him if I could list the WVC house. He started yelling at me about how he doesn’t care about me or love me so why should he do anything for me? I explained he doesn’t have to do anything, I can just list it, sell it and get the bills paid off and split the equity.  We have equity in it and it would help us both if we could sell it. He just became more angry and said I made my bed and now I have to sleep in it. (again).  He was very angry today.

01/28/2003 Tues

I called Craig to ask him if I could help him get the WVC house cleaned up to sell. I can’t keep making the payment on it, it’s making me go broke. That didn’t go well. I didn’t even get to make the offer. Before I finished my sentence, he said NO DEALS.  I’ve ruined his personal life and I can’t have anything of mine from his house. He is very angry and said he is sending me another email.

Patreon peeps….I will get those emails uploaded for you!

Casey from D.C.A office called and said the judgement on Craig is back and Kathy, the prosecutor, will forward it with her letter to the INS. today. I called the Kaysville PD to get a civil standby at 2pm today to get more things out of the Kaysville house.

01/29/2003 Wed

I met with attorney Dwight Williams today and gave him all the info on Craig. I went to the DCA office and picked up a copy of Craigs judgement and faxed it to Dwight Williams.

I received a copy of the following letter from the Davis County Attorney's office to the INS regarding Craig.

This is what it said:

DAVIS COUNTY ATTORNEY

Dear Agent Gay,

I am a Deputy Davis County Attorney and recently prosecuted the above name individual (Craig Nicholls) for a Violation of a Protective Order. A copy of the Sentence, Judgment and Commitment resulting from that prosecution is attached. As you can see, Mr. Nicholls was convicted of a Class B misdemeanor for an incident involving his ex wife. (technically we were still married)

It is my understanding that deportation has previously been ordered for Mr. Nicholls. The above mentioned conviction is an additional crime since that deportation order. Mr. Nicholls appears to be a very dangerous and manipulative individual. I would strongly recommend that the INS follow through with actual deportation of Mr. Nicholls or that he be detained pending such action. I believe he is a danger to his ex wife and a potential danger to others that he comes in contact with.

If you would like further information, please contact me at XXX

Sincerely,

Kathi Sjoberg

Deputy Davis County Attorney.

I received another email from Craig telling me to back off. He doesn’t know about the letter to the INS, but possibly he got a call or something to set him off. I emailed him back and suggested he try be less hostile and more communicative, and to quit insulting my family.

When you see the emails you will understand why I brought up my family. I have an entire binder full of emails he sent me, just threatening and ridiculing me and my family.

Thanks again for following. I promise I will keep writing while you all keep reading.

Those of you who don’t know a lot about the story, I will give you a bit of a heads up here. In July of 2003 (the year I am giving you journal entries from) Craig was arrested for homicide. There is a lot of information that leads up to that day. He actually killed the guy a couple weeks before he was arrested and so I was still dealing with him after he had murdered someone. During the investigations, it was made known to me by the detectives that I was supposed to be part of his plan as he had also taken out more life insurance on me, made his girlfriend a passport with my name in it and they were going to leave the country as a happy, rich couple. That was their plan. Fortunately for me they were caught before they took me out because I wouldn’t be here today to tell the story.

So these next few posts just keep getting us closer to the day he was arrested, but that is not when he stopped terrorizing me. It continued for years. And once I get the whole story out, I want to work on helping other people in similar situations. This is not just a place to type up my journals. I am giving you the complete background to a horrible story that was a large part of my life. But the longer I live, the smaller this chapter will become :)

Until next time!